Wedding vows are a very special part of every couple's ceremony. Wedding vows are taken today to cherish and reinforce the love felt by each person taking part in the wedding but also to let the partner know that he or she weds out of love and own desire and commits to be by his or her side for as long as he or she is breathing. Wedding vows are the most important part of a wedding ceremony and a marriage is not complete without the exchange of vows. Wedding vows are very personal and should reflect you and your fiancés personalities and feelings for each other
Many people feel that writing their own wedding vows makes their wedding ceremony a more personal experience. Writing your own vows should begin and end with how you feel, not what others are expecting. If you are one of the many couples planning to write your own vows for your wedding, these 10 tips will show you that it is not as difficult as you think.
1. You should give yourself a pat on the back for choosing to write your own vows. Fear stops many couples from attempting to write their own vows. The ultimate question is who better to express their love then the couple themselves? Now that you received your pat on the back; take a deep breath, get a spiral notebook, so that you can keep your thoughts all together and let's get started!
2. The length of the wedding vows is very important, as even if it is your own wedding ceremony you may not want to stand in front of the altar talking for more then a few minutes your vows so, try and make them short and concise as possible. Too lengthy weddings vows can loose their meaning and essence not to mention that those who are far away from the altar and cannot hear them will get frustrated and bored.
3. The best wedding vows reflect who you are. Your wedding vows can set the tone of your marriage in a perfect manner and make the most special ceremony of your life more poignant, romantic and exclusively your own. So while you are penning down vows for your wedding ceremony incorporate your own views on marriage and its importance.
4. Another decision you will have to make is what type of vow you will write. This decision is best made by you and you're intended. The three core types of vows are: Traditional vows: Traditional vows promise your love to your future spouse in a standard way without mentioning God or the presence of a dominant religious figure. " Non-traditional vows: Non-traditional vows are promises to each partner that are not religious and allow each of you to take a creative turn with your words. " Religious vows: Religious vows are traditional vows that refer to God or the presence of a religious figure while making your lifelong promise to your partner. Since wedding vows are meant to be spoken from the heart, the words included in them indicate the reason as to why couples want to spend the rest of the life with their partners.
5. All wedding vows do not have to be serious or sentimental. They can be funny, witty, even tongue and cheek, basically wedding vows should sound like you and your fiancé, and how you two actually are together in your daily interactions. Also, remember that even in wedding vows, where the tone is lighthearted, great passion, tenderness, and the love you two share will still shine through.
6. Wedding vows can be broken down into three parts; the beginning or declaration is where you ask you're intended to be your partner and live with you forever. It does not have to be fancy; only a declaration of love for your intended. The middle or description is where describe why or how you fell in love with your fiancé. The end or the all important vow is where you make your promises, such as "I promise to be by your side for a lifetime" or I promise to never judge your mistakes",
7. Start writing your vows by putting a rough draft together. You can search the internet for wedding vow samples to use as a guide or inspiration. Work on this rough draft until you are satisfied with it. (This is where the spiral notebook comes in handy by keeping all of your drafts together, so that you can go back and refer to them.
8. After your finished writing your rough draft; read the word out loud to make sure that the words flow and sound nice. You do not want your speech to be awkward and full of run on sentences where you are out of breath at the end of the sentence. Now that you have your rough draft it is easier to change the wording and make the three parts of your vow flow together.
9. Ok, now that you have put your life and soul into writing your wedding vows, put them away for a couple of days. After a couple of days have passed, take out your vows and reread them out loud. Make changes if you need to; don't be afraid to entirely scrap your vows and start over if they do not suit you.
10. Now that you've written your perfect wedding vows it's time to practice them out loud and memorize them. Practice your vows first, so that you can be sure the wording is right; you may have to rearrange some words to make them flow right off your tongue. If it is too hard for you to say; then change the words to something easier. You will want to memorize your wedding vows so that you are not reading from a piece of paper in front of all of your guests and you're intended. The words that you speak will be much more personal and sound more like they are coming from your heart instead of a piece of paper.
I hope that these ideas will give you a place to start in writing your wedding vows. Remember to write from your heart and you can never go wrong! It's ok to make your intended and the guests at your wedding cry; it will be an unforgettable moment for everyone! I would like to leave you with one last piece of advice; do not try to write your wedding vows a day before you get married. Can you say too much stress? Do yourself and your intended a favor and write your vows well before that all important day so that it will come off without a hitch.
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